that I need a little extra prayer, thought, good wish, etc ---today is it. 10-1/2 months waiting and lots of other babies being placed to wonderful families---but there is this little twinge still wondering "why not us?" "what are we doing wrong?"
I know God has a plan. I know there is the "perfect" baby out there for us. I know that we are working on His time, not ours. I KNOW the other families deserve their bundle of joy just s much as we do.....BUT it doesn't diminish the questions and feelings we are having.
ok pity party is officially over for now. I'm not looking for sympathy. I am just venting so I can sort of get myself together enough to work today.
So, please send extra prayers to the birthmother that she is healthy and at peace with her decision ---without her being at peace, He can't join us together.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Adoptive Mommies get together
One of the many many wonderful things about the adoption agency we are working with, is the support system of other families in any of the various stages of adoption--waiting, completing paperwork, already received their child, etc. Last night a group of women--all from the CAS (Christian Adoption Services) "family" got together for some fellowship, story swapping and good general support of one another!
There were 2 others like myself in the "waiting" phase- and 3 others who have had babies placed with them already. It was great to hear the stories, the advice, the "what happens" and the expectations of events/things such as getting the call, waiting to hear if the match is truly a match, at the hospital, dealing with the birthmother/birth family after paperwork is signed as well as during the legal risk/revocation period, changes of birth mother relationships after the first year, reactions of own families, how do we keep this a secret for that first week?? etc/etc/etc we gabbed and ate and gabbed some more for over 3 hours!!
The three things I know waking up this morning: 1) we definitely chose the right agency to work with 2) there are some pretty amazing women out there either in the same boat or have been in this boat, and 3) this wait is "normal" and we must just put it all in God's hands. Thankfully I have done #3 already! As our agency's website says "waiting on god, waiting on placement" That pretty much sums it up!!!
There were 2 others like myself in the "waiting" phase- and 3 others who have had babies placed with them already. It was great to hear the stories, the advice, the "what happens" and the expectations of events/things such as getting the call, waiting to hear if the match is truly a match, at the hospital, dealing with the birthmother/birth family after paperwork is signed as well as during the legal risk/revocation period, changes of birth mother relationships after the first year, reactions of own families, how do we keep this a secret for that first week?? etc/etc/etc we gabbed and ate and gabbed some more for over 3 hours!!
The three things I know waking up this morning: 1) we definitely chose the right agency to work with 2) there are some pretty amazing women out there either in the same boat or have been in this boat, and 3) this wait is "normal" and we must just put it all in God's hands. Thankfully I have done #3 already! As our agency's website says "waiting on god, waiting on placement" That pretty much sums it up!!!
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