One of the many many wonderful things about the adoption agency we are working with, is the support system of other families in any of the various stages of adoption--waiting, completing paperwork, already received their child, etc. Last night a group of women--all from the CAS (Christian Adoption Services) "family" got together for some fellowship, story swapping and good general support of one another!
There were 2 others like myself in the "waiting" phase- and 3 others who have had babies placed with them already. It was great to hear the stories, the advice, the "what happens" and the expectations of events/things such as getting the call, waiting to hear if the match is truly a match, at the hospital, dealing with the birthmother/birth family after paperwork is signed as well as during the legal risk/revocation period, changes of birth mother relationships after the first year, reactions of own families, how do we keep this a secret for that first week?? etc/etc/etc we gabbed and ate and gabbed some more for over 3 hours!!
The three things I know waking up this morning: 1) we definitely chose the right agency to work with 2) there are some pretty amazing women out there either in the same boat or have been in this boat, and 3) this wait is "normal" and we must just put it all in God's hands. Thankfully I have done #3 already! As our agency's website says "waiting on god, waiting on placement" That pretty much sums it up!!!
I'm so glad to read of your good night. Excellent support!
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